The goal as a parent is to help your child feel competent and confident, and to help her develop a sense of passion and purpose. There are many ways to raise happy, well-adjusted kids, but science has a few tips for making sure they turn out okay. From keeping it fun to letting them leave the nest.
No one would argue that raising children of character demands time and effort. While having children may be doing what comes naturally, being a good parent is much more complicated. Here are some steps to follow.
1 – Put parenting first:
Once you’re a parent, you have to learn to put your priorities below your children’s, and to make the sacrifice to spending more of your day caring for them than you do caring for yourself.
2 – Don’t aim for perfection:
According to a study, new parents who believe society expects perfection from them are more stressed and less confident in their parenting skills.
3 – Be good to your sons, Mamas:
A warm, attached relationship with mom seems important in preventing behavior problems in sons, even more so than in girls, the research found.
A close relationship with their mothers can help keep boys from acting out.
4 – Eat dinner as a family:
The dinner table is not only a place of sustenance and family business but also a place for the teaching and passing on of our values.
5 – Tend to your mental health:
Research suggests that depressed moms struggle with parenting and even show muted responses to their babies’ cries compared with healthy moms.
According to researches, kids raised by these mothers are more easily stressed out by the preschool years.
6 – Give your child enough play time every day:
“Play time” does not mean having your child sit in front of the TV while you do the dishes.
It means letting your child sit in his room or play area and to actively engage with stimulating toys while you help him explore their possibilities
7 – Be positive:
Parents who express negative emotions toward their infants or handle them roughly are likely to find themselves with aggressive kindergartners.
Behavioral aggression at age 5 is linked to aggression later in life, even toward future romantic partners.
8 – Joking helps:
When parents joke and pretend, it gives young kids the tools to think creatively, make friends and manage stress.
9 – Encourage independence:
You can still be there for your child while encouraging him to explore his own interests. Don’t tell your child which lessons to take; let him pick from a variety of options.
Don’t be ashamed if you feel things are getting too much for you. Ask for help. Tell your partner when you’re having a hard time, find a babysitter or parenting counselor, seek support from other parents, learn new ways of parenting that will make it more easy and enjoyable for you.